Monday, 17 April 2017

The Crazy World of Adulthood

When we are teenagers, we think we know absolutely everything there is to life. Adulthood is on the horizon, and the youth rebels against as many adult figures in their lives as they can since, of course, they know everything! But a moment comes in everyone’s life, when adulthood actually does arrive, and we realize one thing. We hardly know anything. Being twenty presently, I’m realizing as the days go by that the older you get, the more humility you need to learn all the necessary life lessons.  Life is so complex, and we need to have the virtue to learn from others and sanctify ourselves as we go.


As a teenager, we always have an image in our head about our lives, and the future we are going to have. But plans change, and plans we were so firm in to happen in the future might change as well. Because every single person in the world has a different idea of life in their head, and sometimes their way of life is better for our souls than the way we planned on. That is why it is so essential to have good friends we can depend on. People were made by God to be social, and learn important lessons from a plethora of people.

The reason we need to be open to learning from others is because it will be essential to our vocation. For example, if it is God’s will for you to get married, there will be quite a lot of sacrifices that have to be made because of the other person. This other person who you are now bound to, will have different hopes and dreams, and you will need to have the humility to work with their dreams as well as your own. If we can perfect such a humility, life and all it’s potentials will significantly open up, instead of us being selfish and shutting out every idea that is not our own.

The importance of who we spend time with and our environment then comes into play. Since we’re adults now, it is our responsibility to choose our friends as well as our living situation. These two things will play a large role in molding who we are and our futures. If we live in a chaotic home, with friends who do nothing but look down on us, how will we ever learn about life and all it’s beautiful qualities. Every human deserves people who love them and a peaceful place to call home. Never stop fighting for what you deserve. God created you in His likeness, it’s His will.

Let us then pray, stay humble, and live life to the fullest. Because life and learning all it’s lessons is a glimpse of what is in store in heaven. Seeing God face to face is like looking in a beautiful infinitely deep well. Every time we gaze at God in the beatific vision, we will learn new eternally beautiful concepts and lessons we had never dreamed of on earth. Always stay humble, because in all these life lessons lies an incredible form of love from the heavens.

Thursday, 13 April 2017

The End that Led to the Beginning

Six years ago from this holy day of Good Friday, when I was fifteen, I was inspired to take my Faith seriously and obtain every answer for every question I had. Oftentimes when we doubt our Faith, it isn't so much we can't find the answers, but we do not want answers for our questions. We are so convinced that even though on this day Our Blessed Lord went through so many tortures, dragged a cross through the streets as He was laughed to scorn, that He doesn't understand our problems and our desperation. We assume He doesn't know what it's like to have nothing, to be in a position where there seems to be no hope. We strain ourselves to the point of losing faith in life and continue going down the path of destruction. We forget who we are, and Who made us.

This holy Friday, if you happen to stumble upon these words on my humble blog, remember one thing. He loves you. He loves you so intensely that He waits in Churches for days, weeks, even years, so that one day you can enter into that Church to make a visit to Him. He waits in the confessional, waits in the Holy Eucharist, even used to wait in the gardens He would play in as a child, so that one day He could grow up and die for us. Maybe life is harsh, maybe it seems like everything is crashing down, but remember His sacred eyes are continuously resting on you, waiting for you to run into His gentle arms to comfort you in your needs.

Therefore on this sacred day, regain your fire for the Faith. The Faith isn't there as a sort of distraction or burden in our lives. It's a portal to the truth of Providence, and a way for us to live peaceful and happy lives. When Our Lord was hanging on the cross, He didn't complain like we do in our trials. He simply hung in the silence, waiting for the day He would rise up and show the world that life does get better.

Listen in the peaceful silence. He waits for you with love. Have hope, the Resurrection is coming.

Monday, 10 April 2017

World News, and Why We Need to Calm Down

A couple years ago I wrote an article on this blog about the war in Syria and the good that could come from such a travesty. But as time goes on, these wars and evil events are getting far more serious and damaging. Not only are we worrying about wars and persecutions overseas, but the threat of bad influences in the media, in schools, and pretty much everywhere we go is now greatly worrying us. All these things are very concerning, but I must mention one thing. The greatest way the devil can use these trials is a way we often don't think of - he makes us anxious.

Anxiety, the cripple of virtue, the death of will power, and the enemy of perseverance enters our soul. As a general rule, God never dwells in anxiety, He always dwells in peace. If He ever allows any evil, He always brings out a greater good and gives us the grace to accept such things. But this new concept of reading through every article you can find on the internet, subscribing to every Facebook page predicting the Apocalypse, worrying constantly about the end of the world is not from God. We lose our hope this way, we pray to God, "How could this be happening? There is no hope for change!" There is always hope, never forget that. Of course keeping yourself informed of news in important, but never make it your duty and large part of your day to find and post as many tragic and gruesome stories as you can find. God is not found in anxiety, He is found in looking to the future with hope and peace.

If you want to change our leaders, help the world and all it's trials, and stop the horrific wars going on, put down the constant news feed and fulfill the duty God has given you. Whether you be a teenager working at McDonalds, or a mother taking care of a family, in perfecting your daily duty, you complete the job God has given you and He can use that to change world. I always quote St. Catherine of Sienna when she said, "If you are what you should be, you will set the whole world ablaze!” Be perfect as your heavenly Father is perfect, and you will see the world change. Do not be anxious dear reader, do not trouble yourself as you do with the news, because Our Blessed Lord only asks you to do what He has given you and He will do the rest. He will never give us something we can't control, like who is in Parliament or who shoots the first bullet. Worrying does nothing, becoming a saint does all. 

Monday, 27 March 2017

Marrying Young, and Why Not to Be Afraid


For 2017, the average age people are now getting married at is 30+. After all shouldn't young people enjoy themselves and experience life to the fullest before settling down? The single life takes precedence, and the focus becomes solely on ourselves. Being 20 and planning out my future, I found myself being faced with these serious questions. My desire, as many young people have, is to experience all that I can and be prepared for marriage as thoroughly as possible  in order to give my best to my husband and children. Of course one can argue about waiting until every virtue is perfected, but marriage is just another step to gaining experience and perfecting virtue. If we consider the positives of marrying younger than 30+, maybe our thoughts will change with this idea of "world experiences,” and making sure we’re “ready.” 

First of all, what are all these world experiences people keep talking about? There are the obvious ones, learning how to manage finances, run a household, build lasting friendships, and so on, but the modern idea of experience has really turned into a pursuit of pleasure. The average person these days has the desire to spend as much time as they possibly can indulging in worldly pleasures, that they forget to focus on future goals. A lot of these pleasure are very good ones, and can be enjoyed within reason, for example traveling or relaxing with friends. But when the focus for the future becomes completely about experiencing as many pleasures as possible, we lose so much of ourselves and end up forgetting about the most important future, Paradise. Charity turns to self-love, sacrifice turns to self-indulgence, and the future is put off over and over until we are too old to even think of raising a family.

God always intended the man or woman to begin their lives together when they are ready: mentally, financially, and spiritually. Arriving at this point really doesn't take as long as people think these days. As long as the man can support his family and the obvious factors are met, then so be it! Marrying when younger not only is easier for having children, having the energy and motivation for raising these children and taking care of your spouse, but the virtues instilled in a heart when receiving the sacrament of marriage are so precious. St. Augustine once said, "What does love look like? It has the hands to help others. It has the feet to hasten to the poor and needy. It has eyes to see misery and want. It has the ears to hear the sighs and sorrows of men. That is what love looks like." So also is the role of a spouse and parent: one who gives of themselves for others ultimately for the greater glory of God. In giving of yourself so completely, the experiences and pleasures you were so desperately seeking in the world now come to you in a purer and more perfect form in marriage.

So my advice to those who are younger who are considering marriage, never rush into such a sacred union, but rather prepare carefully every day, building yourself up in the traits you will need for the future, and commit when the time is right. Waiting a longer time to experience more pleasures in the world will only keep you from experiencing the real, even greater pleasures that God wills for you. 

Tuesday, 31 January 2017

The Duty of Putting Yourself before Others

I bet the reader was somewhat taken aback by the title of "putting yourself before others," but the concept is actually a necessary one in the spiritual life. Of course it is in our human nature to be selfish and not remember our neighbour at times, but this article is going to focus on a main issue people often don't see.  It's the problem that we put our neighbour before ourselves to the extent that we neglect our own needs. Here's an example, imagine two young men that work on a farm. They have a very labourous job, but the first young man always makes sure he's taking his breaks, that he's in good shape, and that his mental and spiritual health are benefiting from the job. The second young man doesn't exactly do this. He always asks the farmer for more jobs, pushing and pushing himself to make sure every detail is complete, working very long hours and skipping his breaks so he can get more work done to benefit the farmer. Who is doing better in the eyes of God? Maybe to the eyes of the world it would be the second man, since he's sacrificing himself so much for society, but in the eyes of God it would be the first. 

God does not give us merit for straining ourselves because we think we're doing more for the world and those around us. He gives us merits for taking care of ourselves as He wants us to. It is extremely necessary to care for ourselves first before we help our neighbour. How are we supposed to love our neighbour as ourselves if we're not even loving ourselves? It is our duty and obligation to take care of our physical, mental, and spiritual wellbeing in every single situation. If you're being overworked and it's beginning to effect you, it's your job to rest and heal yourself. Oftentimes it may seem like rest is the last thing we want to do if we want to achieve great things, but it's always in the little perfections that we merit the most.

If we care for ourselves first, our neighbour will always benefit far more than if we had exerted ourselves too much for their "well being." God spreads merit and goodness where His will is followed, so never forget that if we take care of ourselves first, everyone else will benefit. Even if we're lying in bed, resting finally after a life over over working, the world will gain great grace.

And so my dear reader, care for your own soul, care for your body and mind, and always heed to the will of God. For the will of God guides us to not only happiness, but wellness, health, and peace.
 

Friday, 27 January 2017

Clinging to Peace

As Catholics we tend to sometimes have a gloomy view of life. The idea of "offering up all our trials and sufferings" takes over and blinds us from what true suffering is, to bring us to the greater good. God never intended for suffering to be the main focus, rather the main focus in everyone's spiritual life should always be peace.

Peace of soul is essential, because without peace there is nothing to fall back on. Peace is the clarity of conscience, the confidence in our Faith, the solid love and trust we have in our God. If at the end of the day our hearts aren't at peace, and are rather struggling with all our trials and trying to hold onto the fibres of peace left in our souls, then we're doing something very wrong. The first thing we must always remember is that we need to be doing God's will at all time. If you are in a situation, whether it be a job where people are mistreating you, or there are people in your family who are influencing you in a negative way, or your general environment is bringing you down, you need to find a way to fix these things, work around them, and make a change. Of course avoiding suffering is impossible, but unnecessary situations that are causing strain to your life need to be avoided, as it isn't God's will. God wants you to have a happy life in this world and the next. He may give us tests to strengthen us, maybe a situation to go through to help us be better people, but my dear reader, cling to the peace of your soul, for it is there and there alone that Our Blessed Lord dwells. If your heart calls you to a different environment, or a different vocation, or even a different circle of friends, follow it confidently! God is peace, and will always show you where you will be most happy in life as long as we trust Him.

For example imagine a young boy who was disabled. This boy is still a precious soul created by Our Lord, but the right environment is necessary for him to thrive and get to heaven. Why, with all our pride, do we think that we have to live in conditions that aren't peaceful and good for our souls? Do we think that God only wills us to take the cruelty of the world? Of course not! God wants us to fight for our peace and find where that peace lies!
 

Never let anyone take away your peace. Because where peace lies, grace and salvation dwells also. 

Thursday, 6 October 2016

Marriage in Heaven? - A Beautiful Article

I had to post this entire article on my blog (all credit goes to catholicconvert.com and the author Steve Ray - http://www.catholicconvert.com/blog/2015/02/19/marriage-in-heaven-will-we-know-and-love-our-spouses-in-heaven/comment-page-1/#comment-351966) because it's one of the most beautiful I've ever read and answered all my questions I had about this topic. I've always wondered and thought about it, and instead of writing down my thoughts after reading this, I thought I would post the whole thing, since every word is perfectly written! So please enjoy and be inspired!

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My dad died almost five years ago. Mom misses Dad and was discouraged about Mark 12:25 which her paraphrased Living Bible improperly rendered “will not be married” in heaven.


I wrote the following to comfort my Mom…


Mom, I know it is important to you since Dad’s death as you look forward to eternity and speculate about relationships in heaven. It is important to me too, knowing I want to be with my wife Janet in heaven.


You quoted Mark 12:25 from the Living Bible where it says husbands and wives “won’t be married in heaven.” It is the Living Bible translation – which is not a translation but a paraphrase – that renders the words “they won’t be married.” The paraphrased Living Bible takes great liberties and is quite inaccurate.


Here is how other Protestant translations translate the verse (since I know you like the Protestant translations even though the Catholic Bibles word it the same):


The King James Version renders it:
“For when they shall rise from the dead, they neither marry, nor are given in marriage; but are as the angels which are in heaven.”



New American Standard Bible says:
“For when they rise from the dead, they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven.”



New International Version (NIV) says:
“When the dead rise, they will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven.”



No reputable translation translates this in a way to deny there are people continuing in love with earthly spouses. The original Greek language says there is no giving or taking in marriage. In other words, there will be no weddings in heaven.


Interestingly it says that before the flood the people were “marrying and giving in marriage” until the flood came. But after the flood Noah and his wife in the ark were still married :-)  


There will be male and female distinctions in heaven. Jesus appeared as male after his resurrection. Mary is seen in heaven as a woman (Revelation 12:1). Marriage will be known in heaven since the Church is the Bride and there will be the great marriage in heaven with Jesus the Bridegroom and the marriage supper of the Lamb (Revelation 19:9).


The Pharisees set up a trap for Jesus in Mark 12:18-27. They propose a situation with seven brothers. The first marries a wife and dies with no children. The second brother “takes” the woman to procreate children for his brother. This was the law of the Jews — a brother must take the wife of his dead brother to preserve his brother’s name in the land by propagating offspring for him with his widow.) This happens seven times. Who’s wife will she be in heaven.


The woman who was the wife of the seven brothers did not marry the seven brothers.  She married the first and was given to the six in order to procreate children in the name of the first.  All their children would be credited to her first husband who was her true love and spouse.


Jesus is not intending to teach on relationships in heaven but he is refuting the Sadducees’ denial of the existence of angels and the resurrection. He is cleverly eluding their question and in no way denies husbands and wives will know and love each other in heaven. This is not a treatise on relationships in heaven but a clever response to his opponents about the existence of the supernatural world.


The purpose for marriage was companionship and procreation. The propagation of children and the population of the earth was God’s plan for marriage on earth. The meeting of sperm and egg will not be needed in heaven.”Marital love” to produce children will not happen in heaven so marriage in that sense will not exist. But that does not eliminate the continuance of earthly relationship.


We will recognize each other in heaven just as the three disciples recognized Moses and Elijah on the mount of Transfiguration and John recognized Mary in heaven (Rev 12:1). 


Family and matrimony are very important in Scripture and the way God fashioned the universe and created man and woman to be one flesh. There must be spiritual discernment here. The reason why the Jews buried family members together is because they will rest together in heaven. There is a spiritual permanence to family. And an extraordinarily strong spiritual permanence to matrimony. This is why it is described as “one flesh”.


We will not know and love less in heaven – we will know and love more. And can we comprehend that God would command us to love each other down here and would expect us to forget or deny that love in heaven?


Interestingly, Doctor of the Church St. John Chrysostom, in writing on fidelity in marriage said that young husbands should tell their wives, “I have taken you in my arms, and I love you, and I prefer you to my life itself. For the present life is nothing, and my most ardent dream is to spend it with you in such a way that we may be assured of not being separated in the life reserved for us.… I place your love above all things, and nothing would be more bitter or painful to me than to be of a different mind than you. (CCC 2365, St. John Chrysostom, Hom. in Eph. 20, 8: PG 62, 146–147.)


Nothing in Scripture leads us to believe that relationships between spouses will be eliminated. There is every reason to believe relations will be maintained in heaven though for different reasons – enhanced reasons which we will understand when we get there.


We cannot understand our new spiritual bodies and heavenly existence any more than a caterpillar can comprehend what it will be like to be a butterfly. We cannot anticipate how personal relationships will flower in glory any more than acorn can anticipate standing 50 feet tall.


I’m convinced you and dad will have a wonderful and much better relationship. It will be different. We cannot even comprehend how much better or more in love we’ll be with our spouses, any more than an unborn baby can speculate about the taste of a delicious steak dinner.

Referring to Jesus’ words J. Vernon McGee 9 (one of your favorite Baptist preachers) writes, “This doesn’t mean that a man and a woman who were together down here can’t be together in heaven. They won’t be together as man and wife. They are not establishing a home up there, nor are they raising children. That’s the thing that He’s saying to them here.”


Marriage is an earthly word to serve an earthly purpose. Marital relationships, on the other hand, will transcend time because love is forever. Faith and hope will pass away but love will never pass away (1 Cor 13:13).


Dad is sitting in his favorite chair having coffee with Our Lord Jesus waiting for you to arrive to love you better than ever before. In the meantime he is praying for you and very intent on your we’ll being.


(Thanks to De Maria for suggestions and insights which I have included)


Further thoughts from Whalter:


The divine declaration was that it was “not good for the man to be alone” (Gen 2:18) The text reveals that God and the man enjoyed a genuine, interactive relationship in the pristine environment of the garden (Gen 2:15-19, 17; 3:8­-9), but God had created man as a relational being a being with capacity for a relationship with God, as well as a capacity, indeed, need for relationship with others like himself.  


 This divinely created need for companionship and relationship was part of the original creation to which the new creation returns. Granted, after man’s lapse into sin in the garden, the need for relationship in humanity was seriously marred and deformed. 

But, did God declare a law of marriage in a perfect world?  There are no such law. There were no laws of marriage imposed on Adam and Eve either. The only laws were “Don’t eat from that tree” and ” Be fruitful, start multiplying”.


They were made man and wife. In a perfect world, no laws of marriage were needed…But, they were commanded to have sex and multiply. This is what made Adam and Eve to be man and wife. She came out of his rib. 


 This made them related. Was this a law or an act of God? What law of marriage was imposed upon Adam and Eve? In the portion of Scripture above, God was silent. Adam did all the talking. Adam was prophesying about FUTURE relationships (Adam didn’t have a Mom and Dad).


God didn’t need a law to make Adam and Eve to be man and wife. In a perfect world, no laws of marriage were needed. Why would you even need laws of marriage in a perfect world? 


 In a perfect world, when God did the pairing, no law was needed. Adam and Eve were made to be man and wife while they were in an immortal state intended to be forever without death. 


 So, did God intend for them to be man and wife forever? In Heaven, will God undo what He originally did in a perfect world? Think about that. In a manner of speaking, will He return Eve back to the rib and stop their relationship which he made and said was good? God will not undo any laws of marriage over Adam and Eve because there never were any to begin with. They will have their bodies and a wonderfully fulfilled loving relationship, though they will no longer be procreating children.


 Heaven will be a perfect world, and no laws of marriage will be needed there either. Jesus made it very clear that in the age to come there will be no laws of marriage, no earthly ceremonies, no contracts being made where the father gets paid to sell his daughter (given in marriage).


 Yet, as in the perfect state of union that Adam and Eve had — a relationship God made them to need and to have — in heaven he will not undo what he did in the Garden. A man will know and love his counterpart that God gave him. They will love each other in that relationship for all eternity. Mom and Dad will still be “married.”

Tuesday, 20 September 2016

Tricks to Humility

Humility is one of the most beautiful virtues given to us by God. It opens our eyes and makes us realize that all the good around us comes from our beloved Creator. But humility and battling our pride can be very difficult and often times confusing. For example we can admit to ourselves how prideful we are, but then while doing that, thinking we're humble and becoming even more prideful because of it. It can become a vicious cycle and at the end of the day we wonder how we can ever advance in humility without becoming more prideful! Here are a few points that have helped me personally with the virtues of humility.

Stop thinking about it - As startling as that sounds, we need to stop focusing so much on the concept of pride and humility, and look at it from the perspective that God has given us everything, we are nothing, and we need His help. In thinking of it from this viewpoint we keep ourselves from the danger of thinking we're humble, and accrediting God for everything. Focus on the goodness of God and rejoice that such a loving Father has given us everything! It keeps away discouragement and fills the soul with peace. 

Focus on mercy - Humility is a hard virtue to master, so when we beat ourselves up about it, it only gives us more pride. Trusting totally in Gods mercy will protect us from this, since instead of focusing on how prideful we are, we can think that even though we are sinners, we have a loving Father that will lift us up and through His grace will make us saints. 

Accepting our own goodness - Once we reach the point of accepting that God can do all things even though we can't, we'll have to start accepting that we can become holy - saints even! After all, the goal is to become a saint before we die. How can we reach that point then if we're so stuck on the idea that we can't be saints since we're so horrible? Instead, let us focus on the fact that God can make us saints, and even though we can do nothing on our own and can't take credit for any of these virtues, since we are sinners, if we trust God, He will give us the strength to become the greatest and reach the highest realms of heaven.

Therefore let us ask God for true humility, trust in Him, and understanding with ourselves, who are sinners yet are masterpieces of God that have so much potential.

Tuesday, 6 September 2016

A New Concept of Modesty


In previous articles I've spoken about modesty, explaining to the reader that modesty is a misunderstood beautiful virtue that should be loved and cherished. But as I learn more and more about it, and experience different situations, I've realized something else very important. 

Helping Them Cope - As you know these modesty articles are directed towards girls. But what girls don't realize is that guys think differently when it comes to purity. For girls it can actually be quite easy  fighting temptations of purity, and we forget it can be much harder for men to fight these things, especially when we throw modesty out the window. So why not help them out a little bit by dressing properly? Surely we'll get merit for our charity. For example, if we knew our friend who had something like depression, and was triggered easily, we would be very careful to make sure they were as comfortable as possible. Therefore if we care about their wellbeing, let us dress accordingly.


Making Others Inspired - Modesty isn't just about ourselves, but rather everyone around us. It isn't meant to drag us down or prevent us from following the latest trends. Rather it's there to put us in our right position and make our bodies truly beautiful - the way God intended. In doing this we make other around us realize that the concept of modesty, which is so ridiculed in our day and age, is actually an amazing thing and lifts our spirits far higher than immodest trends ever could. They will begin to see that girls can be beautiful and follow the good trends while sticking to their morals. Let us always inspire everyone around us. It will then be at the Last Judgment when God calls upon us in front of the whole world that we will be called the inspirer. 

Don't Think, Just Do - A lot of times people will dwell forever on modesty, picking it apart and turning into a torturous task. Skirts ten inches below the knee exactly! Turtle necks only! Really, if we overthink all of this, it will reflect to those around us and they'll lose the inspiration they so desperately need. Instead of being so cold with modesty, set your regular Catholic boundaries, don't overthink it, then pray for the grace to see the beauty of modesty. Modesty isn't just in the fabric, it's so much more. It's in our actions, our words, our thoughts, and so on. Let us pray for the true spirit of modesty! 

Therefore dear reader, clothe yourself with the mantle of Our Lady, bathe your soul with the blood of the Lamb, and rejoice in the beautiful virtues which God has given us! 

Thursday, 28 April 2016

Happy Feast of St. Louis de Montfort!!

I am overjoyed to say today is St. Louis de Montfort's  300th anniversary from when he died. A very important feast to be sure! Today I wanted to tell you all a quick story from his life, a story that really inspired me. 

Throughout all his life he went from town to town, preaching sermons, talking in the streets, converting, but mainly being persecuted and hated by most. This is why he is the patron of the forgotten and lonely, because being unloved by thousands was his everyday life. Yet he accepted it and praised God for giving him the opportunity to sanctify himself. One day he went to a small poor town to preach a mission, and was shocked at how he was greeted by the people. Instead of getting stoned or spat at, everyone wouldn't stop hugging him! They hugged him, gave him huge meals, they all sanctified themselves and listened carefully every time he talked, it was a perfect success. At the end, his two followers were so happy they threw a party for such a holy town. As the party progressed they realized Montfort (as he liked people to call him) was missing! They looked and looked, and finally found him in a corner, looking very sad. They said, "Montfort! You've sanctified this whole town, everyone is a hundred times holier than they were before! Why are you so sad?" St. Louis slowly looked up at them and calmly said, "...what a cross... is no cross."

And so we see St. Louis de Montfort spirituality. No matter what suffering we have in life, or even when life is good to us, we must always follow God's will, and do it with a smile. Be gentle and kind to all that pass us, pray for those that hate you, and carry the cross alongside this amazing saint.

Friday, 8 April 2016

Listen to Your Needs



I’ve been really thinking about how souls have such a difficult time discerning their vocations. Some have it easy, and just get married, or enter a monastery, and not give it a second thought. But for most of us, especially us young people who are trying to figure out God’s will for the future, it can be a very confusing journey. But I want the reader, especially if you’re discerning, to always remember, you were built for something. Your heart, and all it’s needs, will correspond with where you go. 
 
In other words, you might be terrified it’s God’s will for you to be a cloistered nun, because you have such a need to be with people, and a need to feel human affections. But don’t worry, listen to your needs, and discern accordingly. God doesn’t want to put you in a place where you’ll be miserable. If you’re not happy when you’re trying out a certain way of life, don’t hesitate to change it! So many Catholics think that we should never be comfortable, always mortified and willing to suffer. And though it is true that we must be willing to conform to God’s will and offer up the sufferings of life, God didn’t make you so He could put you in a way of life that wouldn’t give you all that your heart needed. So please, choose a way of life that you’ll be happy and comfortable in. 

Life isn’t meant to be a constant series of pain and sacrifice. It’s a beautiful journey where sacrifice is rewarded, and mortification is given a greater good. All that you do will be rewarded a hundred fold “even on earth” as Our Lord said. I know discerning is difficult, but if you listen to what you need, you’ll get through this and live a life of peace, no matter what it is. Whether it’s a mom, or a monk, or a hermit, or a single man working in the world, all souls are equally loved by God, and will be high in heaven, as long as we fight for it.